So, you’re looking to have some kinky sex. Whether it’s a secret fantasy you’ve been wanting to live out as long as you can remember, or you simply want to spice things up in your current relationship, kinky sex actually hosts a plethora of benefits for our personal well-being. From simulating similar mental states that meditation and mindfulness bring on, to heightening our creativity even outside of the bedroom, to even enhancing cognition – kinky sex can actually be good for you. If kinky sex is your cup of tea, we’ve got you covered with a list of 12 kinky tips and ideas you can try tonight with your partner.
1. Go to a sex shop together
If you want to get kinky with your partner, getting some new toys is the perfect place to start. Go to a sex shop together and take your time walking around and seeing what turns you and your partner on. (peytonsplaceanimalrescue.org) The shared experience is sure to bring you two closer, you’ll be able to communicate better about what you two are curious about, and you’ll be ripping each other’s clothes off by the time you get home!
2. Watch porn together
Watching porn with your partner can be incredibly hot. On one hand, it creates a space to be able to have open discussions about what kind of porn you and your partner each like to watch, and what kind of positions or types of sex you may be interested in trying. On the other hand, watching porn as you and your partner each masturbate in front of each other can be super erotic. It’s a fun way to spice things up in a relationship, and can even teach you how to please your partner better.
3. Wear lingerie or costumes
You probably know exactly what your partner likes to see you in. Maybe they go wild for you in your boxer shorts, maybe it’s when you have your silk pajamas on, maybe it’s when you pull your hair into two pigtails and wear his dress shirt, making you look like a sexy schoolgirl. Either way, surprising your partner with some hot lingerie or a sexy role play costume may inspire the two of you to get into character and have some very kinky sex.
4. Have spontaneous sex somewhere new
Familiarity breeds routine, which in turn can lead to boredom. So, if you want to get your creative juices flowing, consider having sex somewhere new. It could be a different room in the house, in a forest, a public washroom…the opportunities are endless, and they all depend on how daring and kinky you two are willing to get.
5. Sext all day
Nothing gets you more in the mood for some wild sex than talking about sex. Sexting while you two are apart, like at work or at different functions can be the perfect foreplay for some steamy sex later on. It also helps you get more comfortable with dirty talk if you get nervous in the moment!
6. Have a threesome (with or without another person)
Threesomes can be amazing, but they’re not for everyone. If you don’t want to introduce a third party into the mix, there are some fantastic sex toys that can simulate a third person. You can get a suction cup dildo and stick it to the wall, then ride it backwards to recreate doggy while pleasuring your partner with some oral sex! A must-have for kinky players is a strap on that cums – whether it’s for pegging, for female-to-female relationships or just to have another realistic cock in the mix, it’s the perfect addition to any toy box.
7. Have sex in front of a mirror
The next time you’re having hot sex with your partner, lead them to the nearest mirror and have you both facing the mirror, so you can both get a great view as they penetrate you from behind or reach over to stimulate your breasts or clitoris. Doesn’t get much hotter than that. You can even add some mirrors near or above the bed if you want to take this kink to the next level!
8. Dirty talk
This one is pretty self-explanatory. Dirty talk is an awesome way to turn the heat up. Whether you get intricate and detailed with your talk or simply explain what you want them to do, what you’re about to do or how something feels, talking dirty always ups the ante in the bedroom and makes things that much steamier.
9. Tie them up
You don’t need to go full hogtie or Japanese-style bondage to enjoy a little bit of BDSM. No matter what level you are at with bondage, there’s a way to enjoy it safely. From using an old t-shirt to tie your partner’s hands together or a pair of furry cuffs, tying your partner up and having them at your complete mercy is a fun way to get kinky.
10. Use a blindfold
The sensory deprivation you get from using a blindfold ends up increasing your other senses, making any type of sex a fresh new sensory experience for the wearer. Bring in the feather ticklers, the paddles, the crops…or just your own body. Every sensation will be heightened, and it’ll feel fantastic.
11. Add some biting
Test out some biting and nibbling to add an element of naughtiness to your play. Start by gently nibbling on their lip while making out, and if they’re into it, move it to other places, like their neck, shoulders, and even nipples.
12. Keep the windows open
If you really want to get kinky, leave the window open the next time you and your partner have sex. The thought that someone might see or hear makes things a lot more exciting. How wide you want to leave the window open, whether it’s only a crack or the full thing is up to how daring and kinky the two of you are feeling that night. (Valium)
